The Intimacy Reset Challenge

Most couples don’t lose intimacy because they stop loving each other. They lose intimacy because they stop pursuing each other.

This week, don’t wait for intimacy to happen, pursue your spouse intentionally.

1. Have the Conversation

Set aside 20-30 minutes this week to talk honestly about intimacy.

Ask each other:

• What helps you feel connected to me?

• What makes intimacy difficult for you?

• What would make our sex life healthier?

Rules:

• No defensiveness

• No criticism

• Just listening

Unspoken expectations kill intimacy. Honest conversations restore it.

2. Remove One Intimacy Killer

Ask yourselves: What is the biggest thing hurting intimacy in our marriage right now?

Choose one thing to address this week.

Examples:

• Unresolved conflict

• Exhaustion from schedules

• Too much phone time

• Stress or busyness

3. Increase Physical Affection Daily

For the next seven days, practice physical affection every day.

Examples:

• Hug longer than usual

• Hold hands

• Sit close together

• Kiss before leaving or going to bed

Physical touch builds connection long before sexual intimacy begins.

4. Create and Pursue Sexual Intimacy This Week

Each spouse do something one day/night this week

to initiate intimacy.

Pursue your spouse with:

• Affection

• Kindness

• Desire

• Attention

Marriage intimacy is not about taking. It is about serving and pursuing each other. Don’t wait for the perfect moment.

Great intimacy rarely happens accidentally. It happens when couples choose to pursue each other.